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How do we enjoy submissive or dominant role play?

05 July 2021

It's time for a supposed "taboo topic", which isn’t really one any longer. We are talking about the game with dominant and submissive roles. A date with a top class call girl offers a suitable opportunity to approach the topic freshly or to live out existing fantasies with her. For some, dominance is a role play for one night, others integrate it into their daily routine including rules and protocols. For those who have not yet ventured into the topic of BDSM and dominant games, we want to give some basic advice and tips to make it easier to try it out together. In addition, experienced subs and doms may find out a few new aspects about their joint play. In this article, we want to focus specifically on the position of the Dom/Domme. But let's start with the basics.


How do we prepare for dominant games?

How do I approach my partner for dominant games? Dominance without drama should be the goal of the game. The game between D/s, Dominant and Sub, wants to be planned so that you both can savor it with a good conscience. Thus, the first point to consider in ensuring healthy dominance is that both partners are theoretically capable of exercising dominance. If only one partner exercises dominance and the other partner is submissive, it means that one partner always gets what they want and the other partner is constantly submissive to them. This could lead to an unhealthy relationship where one partner is constantly giving up the things that are important to them or that they need to feel loved and cared for.

Healthy dominance requires that both partners are able to stand up for themselves and effectively express their wants and needs. If one partner is struggling with this, it is important to give them extra help and support to encourage them. This is because if one partner is unable to comfortably move into a dominant lifestyle, they will not be able to get what they need from the other partner. This can lead to problems within the relationship and make it difficult for the relationship to continue. 

With a discreet outcall girl, there is no need for this exact arrangement over time, as you can discuss in advance which dominance relationship you both want to maintain. Also the desired kinky details can be clarified completely without shame - leave nothing out! For example, it is also possible to include a escort girl as a third party in your game. Who takes which position in this team is of course also up to you. 

 

 

Before you start experimenting, talk to your partner about what he might enjoy, what hard limits there are. Hard limits are things that you both absolutely do not want. This can mean physical or verbal. Your shared boundaries define what you don't want to hear or feel. The Dom has to stick to these rules, otherwise he runs the risk of behaving egomaniacally, which is detrimental to any Domme-Sub relationship. To avoid crossing these boundaries, you need a safeword. A safeword, that is, a word that would normally never be explicitly said during sex. A word that you agree upon as code for ending or pausing play is necessary because it allows your sub to pause and interrupt what you are doing without disrupting the mutual relationship. 

However, there are some scenarios where a safeword is impractical, such as when the sub part can't get a word in edgewise. In this case, it is a good idea to agree on another signal. Here a tapping, as MMA fighters do, or a very specific hand gesture that one would not normally or accidentally do could be very helpful. Even very experienced BDSM practitioners and professional doms all have a safeword. You should also agree on a safeword for wild play with the high class call girl. No matter how well you understand how your sub experiences things and what he enjoys and what he doesn't, a safeword is indispensable. 


What are the rules for the Dom?

No matter which way you want to act out dominant role play, there should be rules for enjoying it together. The following rules should primarily apply to the Dom to make both of you feel comfortable with the game. After all, if there is one thing that a budding Dominant must have, it is patience. Learning how to play together and basic techniques is a process that can take a while, but the end results are always worth it. 

Ask for help instead of getting uptight. If you are toying with the idea of taking the position of a Dom, make sure you know enough about your partner and how to role play together beforehand. It is not wrong to ask for help and possibly ask someone who is already experienced for advice. 

 

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A classic: talk to each other. How can we start with a D/s relationship? Communication between a Dom and sub is crucial to the relationship. Without honesty and trust, the relationship is doomed. One must be able to trust the other and vice versa. You have to get to know a submissive so well that you can use the mindset in play to dominate them more effectively. This requires two people who communicate honestly with each other. Because no sub will open up to a Dom of which they don't know how open and honest they can be.

What do subs really want? This question cannot be answered in a general way, but empathy as a Dom is indispensable to understand the sub. Being empathetic to your partner's wants and needs is vital. Be aware of your own wants and needs and know how to balance them. If one part is unfamiliar with dominant play, you can always start slowly by approaching the subject together in a sensual way. In this way, you will meet some of your needs and also take into account those of the others. Boundaries and hard rules should be observed and respected at all times.

The Dom should act rationally and with calmness. Be firm and confident, but not overbearing or irritating. Know what you want and do not apologize for wanting it. Stand by your wants and needs - clearly. Invest more effort in communication if your sub doesn't understand. Discipline transgressions consistently and stand by your word as a Dom. Through your voice and gestures, you can ensure that you are understood correctly and that the certain rules are followed. Dominance is about knowing who you are and what you want and living it out in harmony with your sub. You can't have one without the other. Every lock needs a key to perform its function. 


How do I integrate a D/s relationship into my lifestyle?

It is important to note that there is no one specific way to incorporate D/s into your relationship. Every relationship is different and so are the people in it. People change over time and so the relationship needs to be rethought from time to time and adapted to changing circumstances. There is nothing wrong with just doing some D/s play now and then, or swapping roles when you see fit. Acting out these fantasies in the context of a Girlfriend Experience is just as legitimate. The most important thing is to communicate with your partner and make sure that everyone is happy and satisfied with the game you are participating in. Depending on your tastes, you can incorporate basic or complex rules into your D/s relationship. 

A good set of rules is desired or can be dynamically adjusted depending on the sub. Some just need a few rules for their daily routine, while other rules can focus on improving a submissive's self-esteem - they vary, so make sure your rulebook is unique to your submissive. Nurturing is always a must, especially aftercare. Your submissive needs punishment and pain as much as they need love and security. Be sure to maintain your submissive's mental state and learn how to improve his well-being by understanding who he is as a person. 

 

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What rules can the Dom set for the sub?

Playing together can definitely go beyond the bedroom. For example, dominance play can also be integrated into a girlfriend experience. The rules that the Dom sets up in agreement with the sub can be especially appealing for this. The following rules are for inspiration only and could take your D/s relationship to the next level. Please remember that you both have individual tastes that cannot be generalized. You should know best what makes the D/s relationship work for you and not follow trends that don't benefit or make you both uncomfortable.

Call me baby? Develop secret code names for each other that you can say in messages or out loud. It can be anything you are comfortable with, but having a special name to call your partner that emphasizes their position, such as Sir, Madam, Little One or Baby Girl is both a term of endearment and a way to discreetly signal your dominance or submission.

Introduce a short morning or evening ritual where the submissive says or writes "good morning" or "good night" to the dominant so that they are the first thing they think of when they wake up and the last thing they think of when they drift off to sleep at night.

Jewelry always fits because it can be used to signify submission and position. What jewelry has a BDSM meaning? Necklaces often have a similar meaning to a wedding ring in the BDSM world. If you're not ready for the commitment of a necklace, you could try giving the submissive partner a necklace, anklet, ring, or other piece of jewelry that they can wear regularly to remind them of their partner and their desire for submission. A little touch on the subject of clothing: The dominant partner chooses the submissive partner's underwear for the day. Sounds sexy, right?   

Once it comes to sex, you both know what you like best. Dominance and submissiveness can express themselves physically in multi-faceted ways. The BDSM cliché of shackles and whips has its absolute right to exist, but by no means sums up the complexity of the subject. Together with your premium call girl or your partner you live out a domme and sub relationship quite individually. Be it Soft Domination, Daddy Mommy Dom, Pet Dom, Brat or or or. At the core lies living out of one's own sexuality in agreement and through absolute honesty with oneself and one's partner.


What is the aftercare in BDSM? 

What you do before your BDSM play has an impact on how well it goes during your play. But it's also important to think about what you do afterward. BDSM can have a strong emotional impact and may involve actions that are sexually satisfying for both of you, but you may both behave differently than you normally interact.

Then it's important to spend some relaxing, loving time together after an intense BDSM experience, whether it's cuddling up and watching TV, giving your partner a massage, or gently soothing the parts you may have hurt during disciplinary play. As the dominant, you usually take the lead in the aftercare, although it's just as important for you as it is for the submissive, so you can both reconnect outside of the BDSM scenario. It's just as important even if you adopt a dom-sub dynamic.

Being a female dominant can be sexy, empowering, and really arousing for your partner, and if it's an area of BDSM you both want to explore, it's definitely a good idea to give it a try. However, if you are interested in being sexually dominant and do not currently have a partner, it is a good idea to consider it. For this, discreet escort dates are definitely a suitable opportunity and offers a neutral stage to approach the topic or to dominate skillfully.